Friday, 6 October 2017


Update: I wrote this post about 4 months ago and I wrote it to better understand my feelings around having depression and anxiety. This post was for me, I never thought I would post it, but after getting to know so many people who are going through the same thing, I think it makes sense to post it. I kinda of knew I had it, but when I was diagnosed with it, I felt relieved and broken. This post is about my feelings at the time. Since then, I still feel the same, but with the counselling I am starting to make sense of my feelings and make improvements. I will do an update to this post in the next few months.

my battle with depression and anxiety

I feel broken. Honestly, so empty and without purpose that it physically and emotionally hurts. Weird for me to announce, but it's true. I want to firstly apologize if my blog has got a bit sad, but I guess the whole reason I started it was a place to showcase my life, my online diary.

my battle with depression and anxiety

So without delaying further, as you know I decided to go to counseling for my anxiety. Which I talked about in my last post. The aim was to get techniques in order to deal with it, and make me feel like myself again. What I got was another realisation, the fact that I had been diagnosed with depression.

The D word, was something that plagued me for years. When told this, it turned my life upside down. My body ran cold with fear, as I was afraid of what people, especially my family, would think of me.

My battle with depression and anxiety

The first thing I thought is how will I tell my family, they'll be so disappointed in me. You see, I'm afraid of this. I never thought I'd be the girl who would suffer from depression.. I always thought that people who were depressed, couldn't get out of bed, were visibly sad... And potentially would self harm. I didn't do this, as this was a sign of extreme depression. Nonetheless, I was afraid of being judged as if you look at me, I seem to be the same bubbly Jess the go getter! But inside, I'm just existing. There is a volcano of emotions.. where I feel scared, emotional, useless, hopeless, tired and a shell of myself. No one knows what's going on inside...

I thought people wouldn't believe me, I thought that they would think I wanted attention and would make a fuss. Believe me, I don't want this. I want to be myself again, I don't want people to worry about me. Being able to open up, about this is scary, but it makes me feel like there is a light in the tunnel! I told my older sister about how I felt and she was so dope. She reassured me that everything was ok. Everything will be ok.. I just need to make the changes in my life which are creating such negativity.

my battle with depression and anxiety

It maybe a blessing this.. I've been doing things that don't make me happy for so long, I'm tired. Maybe this is a sign to take control of my life fully and without regrets. I know I'll be ok. Especially as I've got a wonderful support system.

It's ok, I'll heal. Have you ever gone through something like this?

Tuesday, 19 September 2017


Well today marks the final day of London Fashion Week, and what a week it has been! From Emporio Armani's strong collection fizzing with colourful touches to Top Shop's classic show which brimmed with chiffon, ruffles and feminine colours. Sadly this season, I am not doing my rounds of the shows. However, I got involved with the spirit of London Fashion week, by being a part of the #LoveGlasses campaign with my old friends at Specsavers. I was gifted with 2 glasses from the Nicole Fahri range as well as prescription sunglasses and Specsavers own range of lenses to style up for a fashion focused post.

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Nicole Fahri at Specsavers

Nicole Farhi is known for its effortless luxury, and the stunning collection for Specsavers didn't disappoint. I chose two frames from this collection and channeled the classic sensibility from the line, whilst also incorporating my own personal style. To create the looks you see below.



I think these oval frames are my fave from the whole range! I styled it with a classic red bodycon dress and over-sized denim jacket, to add a feminine but edgy touch to the whole outfit. What I love about this range is that it has jewel toned frames. It is hard to see in this shot, but my frames are actually an emerald colour, which complements my skin tone beautifully.




I have always been a purple fan, so these frames from the Nichole Fahri range, were a no brainier for me. I wanted to keep the rest of my outfit pretty neutral, but still add a touch of class and interest with the fur detailing of my aviator jacket. What I love about this range is the versatility and the ability to pair with your outfits effortlessly. Both frames came up to £125.

My heart nearly burst when I came across Specsavers Leilani frames. They have everything I would ever need in a pair of specs; colour, embellishment and an over-sized shape. I have become increasingly impressed with Specsavers own range! Costing £89, you can't go wrong for quality frames that are so fashionable. I got a sense of fun & whimsical-ness (I am not sure that is a word, lol) from the frames, I paired  with my New Look floral dress. I think what makes the dress is the ruffle sleeves, which is very on trend. Paired with my knee highs, this is a perfect transitional outfit for the colder weather.


With it being September, we can still get away with Autumn sun. I always dreaded having to go on holiday as, switching between my specs and sunglasses was always a mission. However, I am happy to be the owner of my third pair of prescription sunglasses from Karen Millen. I already own a pair of prescription sunglasses from Specsavers, my trusty Cheap Monday specs which I shoot with all the time! It was time for a fashionable upgrade and I am proud to be an owner of these frames. Dark, tortoiseshell frames are always a fave of mine cause they are versatile. I decided to have a pink theme,  with my pink jumper dress, pink nails (thank you Iman) and floral bomber jacket. My personal style really sparkled with this look.


If you love frames as much as I do, make sure to check out the #loveglasses hub on Specsavers for the latest trends.

This post was sponsored by Specsavers, all words and opinions are my own.

Monday, 18 September 2017


I am obsessed with my teeth! If you know me, going to the dentist is as enjoyable as me getting my hair done at the hair dresser. I am especially obsessed with having healthy teeth, so when I was approached by the Neem Tree dental clinic to do a review, I couldn't pass it down. We discussed a few treatments, an initial examination with a hygienist appointment, then whitening after I get my fillings replaced. 

the neem tree
the neem tree

As I entered the clinic, I was given a standard form to fill regarding my general health. The team were very helpful and knowledgeable. From the start,  I felt completely at ease as I entered the clinic. I was greeted by the dental hygienist, who was so lovely! She looked over my X-Rays from my recent appointment, and sadly I couldn't have a whitening done until my teeth were fully healthy. Now looking at my smile, it may look like they are, but I have a sweet tooth and my ability to floss has taken a back seat recently. So until I get new fillings, and up my teeth hygiene routine, this has been put on pause. Good thing, as the bleach used to whiten my teeth would've caused serious pain and no one wants that. Instead I was given a scale and polish to my teeth! Which basically is a deep clean of my teeth.

A scale and polish is a relatively quick procedure. It is carried out using an  quick cleaning of the teeth carried out by a Hygienist.  Usually an Ultrasonic, and other tools are used to remove tartar and plaque from the teeth. The hygienist used the ultrasonic to clean around the gum line and my teeth to remove all the build up of tartar, plaque and food, which I couldn't remove with tooth brushing alone. The procedure was finished off with a polish and I felt like a new woman!

the neem tree

Honestly, this was a little uncomfortable, and my gums did bleed a little bit. But as the strong woman that I am, I powered through. The reason my gums bled, was because they were inflamed, so I have a little case of Gingivitis. The G word scared me, and rightly so, I was told that it was the beginning stages of gum disease, but this can be easily turned around with better oral hygiene and diet. I had my wisdom teeth removed  two years ago in hospital, and some I couldn't have removed as they were too close to my nerves. As a result, my wisdom tooth is impacted and I struggle to clean it with a regular tooth brush. Meaning food gets trapped there a lot. To combat this, I try and use an inter dental tooth brush to get into the nooks and crannies. After my appointment, I was given a treatment plan. In a nutshell, I need to ditch the regular tooth brush for a an electric one, and floss more often. 

I would like to thank the clinic for educating me and cleaning my teeth. Stay tuned for part two to see how I am getting on with my inflamed gums. 

the neem tree


Wednesday, 23 August 2017


If you've been following my blog for a while, you know that I am no stranger to a facial. I believe in pampering ever so often to recharge the batteries and look your best. And why not? We have so many stressors in our lives, we work hard that sometimes we just need to say let me relax. I got to unwind and relax with Aesthetics Lab London, which is based in the beautiful Primrose Hill. 

I opted for the ALabDetox facial which is suitable for oily and congested skin. I have always had oily/combination skin, and open pores on my cheeks meaning I break out alot. So I was really excited to try this facial out!

The facial uses state-of-the-art cosmeceutical products that are customised to your skin’s needs. I was taken to the spa room, where I changed and got in my zone ready for my facial. Next, my skin was cleansed to remove any dirt or extra oil. I was super relaxed and nearly fell asleep.

Next,  resurfacing exfoliation occurred. Which wasn't as bad as I imagined. It involved a unique crystal-free microdermabrasion technique to remove dead skin and brighten the complexion, followed by a lifting massage to improve firmness and muscle tone. The final step included an  application of a cooling, soothing mask with LED light therapy to reduce inflammation leaving your skin fresh and radiant. 

Now, I should've left my skin alone, but as the busy bee that I am I put make up on. And my skin just glowed! I want to say thank you to the team at Aesthetic Lab, you were so lovely and made me feel so relaxed! If you are looking for the perfect boost to your daily skincare regime. Please check out this facial. 

Monday, 10 July 2017


Every now and again, I like to collaborate with other influencers online and offline. More so offline tbh. Now I am going back to my blogger roots and collaborating with Nate, who is starting his Instagram vlogging on his page, check it out it is hella interesting and funny. Despite, the inspiration vids, Nate has interesting stories to tell, which are pretty inspiring. In this latest post, Nate talks about thinking positively, acting positively and ultimately succeeding in anything you put your mind to. Enjoy, and I promise I will be back! 

What do you want from your life? Ask yourself this question honestly and make it 100% clear in your mind.

There are no shortcuts, no cutting corners, no quick fixes. The key to your success is through hard work, persistence, commitment, determination and a positive mentality. This is the mantra of some of the most successful people on the planet. 


Sounds clich├ęd doesn't it? You're probably thinking, "I've read this so many times. Don't make excuses. Don't say you don't have enough time. Blah, blah, blah". You're left wondering how could you possibly have enough time. You've got a girl/man, a job, bills to pay, friends to keep in touch with, TV to watch, Xbox to play. You ponder to yourself... "It's just not possible. It's easy for these celebrities - they're loaded!".

The reality couldn't be further from the truth. It is undeniably possible. In fact it is probable - with the right attitude. Make no mistake, your mind is the most powerful asset you possess. As you start to focus your thoughts on your future you begin to realise that you have the power to will things into existence. You realise that there is time for all the things you'd like to do. It has nothing to do with creating time, Einstein, because that would be impossible! The time is already there, it is just limited. As your goals take centre stage in your life you will begin to appreciate the less productive activities even more, this is because you have less time available to spend on them. They almost start to feel like a reward - and who doesn't like rewarding themselves?! 

When you wake up in the morning and express gratitude for all the blessings in your life you will catapult your feelings forwards. You will feel joy and happiness and you will continue to produce feelings and thoughts of this throughout the day. Even if you are down and out and these blessings don't exist in your life. Knowing that you will have them and believing that you already do will create the same effect. If you have money problems, tell yourself and act as though you're loaded (obviously put in place plans for debt repayment first - then put it out of your mind and never think about it again). If you have a crush on someone, envision yourself with them, tell yourself you're in a relationship with them. If you're unwell, tell yourself you're fit and healthy every single day. Believe you have achieved your goals, know that you already have them. Think about what you can do and what you do have, not about what you can't or do not. Remove these words from your vocabulary.

As you start to create this buzz, this energy through your thoughts, you will notice more positive occurrences appearing in your life. People on the same wavelength will flock to you, opportunities will open up. As you start to distance yourself from negative people and surround yourself with this new collective you will feel as though you are surrounded by the right circle. If you're having a bad day, these are the people that will put you back on track.

Whatever your goals may be. Keep going. Never stop. Let's not fall back into old habits. If you feel yourself fall down, pick yourself up as quickly as possible. Look back at that obstacle and make a note of where it is so that you are unable to trip over it again. The vision always has to be to on the final outcome. How much do you want it? How much do you want that six-pack and how much do you want the 5 seconds enjoyment of that Snickers bar? How much do you want that Range Rover and how much do you want those overpriced shoes that will shortly go out of fashion? How much do you want that new job and how much do you want to spend that precious time playing Call of Duty? Enjoy what you do. I never think, "Oh I've got to go to the gym today, I can't be bothered, I just want to go home and watch Netflix" because going to the gym is what I love doing. Instead I have a conversation with myself and let myself know that I'm going to go in there and have the best workout I've had to date and lift as heavy as I can.

Let's start from the top. 
Hard work - no one said it was going to be easy, you have to put in the work. 
Persistence - keep knocking on that door, never stop for anything or anyone. 
Commitment - your goals need to be at the forefront of everything you do. It is your husband, your wife, your kids, your life. In place of sacrificing your goals to commit to other activities, make sacrifices in order to commit to your goals. 
Determination - you will get there and you will make sure of it no matter what. 
Positive mentality - you have all the things you desire in abundance, you are grateful for all these things, you know and believe that the universe will provide for you. Tell yourself this every single day. 

Think it. Live it. Manifest it. Succeed.


Wednesday, 21 June 2017


I think I have been obsessed with teeth, for as long as I can remember. At the age of 10, I would always whiten my teeth with whitening strips, floss and have those pearly whites sparkle. However, my sweet tooth addiction, meant that I have about 4/5 fillings between the ages of 17-22. 

It has always been difficult for me, to find a great dental practice in London, that would really teach me about my teeth, and give me amazing quality of care. But that all changed, when I got invited to The Wellington Dental Clinic in Chelsea, for a free dental examination and hygiene treatment (ultrasonic scale and polish). If you follow me on Snapchat, you would've seen my review live, if you don't or missed it, this will be in a vlog.. very soon.


My visit to the clinc happened in two stages. First, I was greeted by the friendly staff and my dentist and dental hygienist. I had a quick consultation with what the review would include, then onto the X-rays to really see how well I'd treated my teeth. They were ok, but needed some TLC. Next, was the check up and clean and my teeth were cleaned so well! The experience was made so much better as I watched Luke Cage on Netflix. On my first visit, I had molds created on my teeth for my whitening guards shown above. I was given a pack of whitening gel for 2 weeks to use to make my  teeth extra bright! 

All in all, my experience was lovely and I want to say a massive thank you to the team at Wellington Dental Clinic. 



Sunday, 21 May 2017


So after much speculation from my family and going to the doctors and getting a confirmation. I've been told that I have anxiety, and if I'm really honest with you, I'm embarrassed to have it.

In no way am I bashing other people with it, But I just want to communicate my feelings around it. I've always been a strong person, I'm from a family of fighters. I'm African, Ghanaian to be exact. If something knocks us down, we dust ourselves off and deal with it head on. We don't dwell, we don't worry, we're the back bone for people. We are not the type of people that need to be saved we do the saving.

Accepting anxiety
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I can't be the back bone for others if inside, I constantly feel like I'm crumbling.  Sometimes, I feel like I'm going to explode with so many emotions, that it's hard for me to articulate what I am feeling. I've always found it difficult to express when I'm feeling vulnerable, I cannot speak up until it gets too much. As a result, there are a multitude of things which have led to this point, where I'm anxious all the time.  Inside, I feel I'm suffering, tight chest, worrying thoughts about who I am, what people perceive me to be. That I'm not good enough. That'll never be successful in anything professionally and personally. It's a toxic cycle. I have to push myself to not think of these negative thoughts, and it's so tiring, my God.

That's why I always have quotes on my Instagram, as a reminder of how I'm feeling and to be strong. Luckily, I have very supportive family and friends, who love me. It's just I don't trust myself or I am afraid to feel weak to them, by expressing who I am. Being seen as "weak" and not the "I have my shit together Jess".

I haven't always been like this. If you know me, you'll know I'm a confident person with my shit together. I think as people, we have so many layers and partly that is true. I have a great poker face and on the surface you'd never know how I was feeling.
black British Ghanaian fashion blogger

But as I wrote in my previous post, I've been in need of a break, which I actively do to make my mind and soul breathe and take head of my life. This anxiety, I have, will not always be here. But it is a big indication, that something needs to change in my life. There are several things, I am now confident to say, have broken me down... And I was to scared to say it. Which is why, I personally asked my doctor to refer me to a counselor rather than medication. As I wanted to understand why I'm feeling this and make positive choices, to rectify my life to make me, well me again. I don't feel like Jess, I feel like Jess on autopilot..just going with the flow.

Anxiety itself is tricky to understand. But I found this nifty diagram on Pinterest to explain how I feel. Boy was it helpful.If you're feeling down, please talk to someone. Someone you trust and don't be embarrassed.. I know I am at the moment. Only because of the perception I have of myself. However, what I've realised, now by writing this post is that it's something a lot of people go through. Alot.. and my older sister said something quite insightful..this world is so stressful, I am surprised a lot of other people don't have anxiety. glad that's off my chest!

black British Ghanaian fashion blogger


Monday, 1 May 2017


“Every person needs to take one day away.  A day in which one consciously separates the past from the future.  Jobs, family, employers, and friends can exist one day without any one of us, and if our egos permit us to confess, they could exist eternally in our absence.  Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for.  Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us.”

I learnt a valuable lesson last year, and that was that it is ok to take a break. You may be thinking really, ain't that pretty standard? Yeah maybe? But do you ever feel like you have to keep going? Or have a massive sense of FOMO (fear of missing out) if you stop doing everything. Like what would your purpose be?

I was never the one to not do anything.. to just sit still. I had to do anything I could to feel fulfilled. At school, I did after school activities, had a job when I was 18. Started a blog, had a placement, went to dance classes, was into more activities at Uni. I'm a go getter and I have no doubt these qualities, will take me to where I will go. However, my desire to push and be the best. kinda took its toll and I became incredibly tired this year. I was crying a lot, and just felt like I was going through the motions. What I realised that what I thought I wanted, maybe wasn't what I wanted... so in order to find myself I decided to do something I hadn't done a take a break, because I couldn't think.


You see, the idea of being busy is no longer appealing. If you know me well enough you'll know that busy is strongly associated with who Jess is now. I also keep busy as a coping mechanism. I've gone through a lot of changes in the last few years, more so last year and this year. I don't know if I can categorise them as good or bad..It's just different and to be honest I don't think I'm adjusting to the more life changing situations in my life. I don't want to be weak or seem like I can't cope, so I switch off... And refocus on other things.

Mum always said I had a unique way of dealing with things, and I am the expert of emotionally removing myself from sensitive situations, and analysing them with facts and rationalising them. I'm sensible Jess. But sensible Jess needs to feel. I'm afraid of my feelings at times, as I feel everything. I wear my heart on my sleeve. And that's ok.

Soon being busy = Jess has a purpose. A lot of people are surprised when I told them what I do. Monday to Friday, I head up social media and digital content for a Global travel tech company. Then in between that, I freelance for FBL Bloggers & this blog, whilst maintaining a very healthy social life. It's long fam. For a while, this worked, and I was fuelled by admiration. But the admiration no longer fuelled me and I just crashed. I remember a particular moment this happened a few months ago, where I just shut myself off and did nothing. It was the best thing I ever did.

I never had a holiday in 2016, I was a robot. I had become a machine who silenced their deepest desires and fears, due to being scared of realising what was wrong. Now I'm ready and I don't want to be a robot anymore. I want to feel, I want to be me. Which is why I was happily quite on the place, that was my sanctuary for years, My websites! My IG was lit, because I just focused on being me and not this super amazing superwoman, who was on 100. I am learning to take care of me. Learning to slow down, albeit difficult!  I  am allowing myself to feel and adjust to the changes in my life.


You see, whatever you do, you have a purpose. You wouldn't be on this Earth if you didn't have a part to play in this bit wild universe. I am learning to stop searching for who I am, to force this purpose and go with the flow. Take a break and breathe if you need to, because you matter. You know? Have you needed to take a break recently?



Thursday, 13 April 2017


I never thought I'd be back to writing my blog. Honestly, after 6 years of Look What I Got! The idea of blogging or content creating was so uninteresting. I had touched on this a couple of times​ through blog posts, and I really did try to change things up, and take a break. But the more my life seemed to change, the more my blog, which had been such an integral part of my life, reduced significantly. So why did I almost stop blogging?


I was bored.

First and foremost, it bored me. I was grateful for the event invites, the exclusive opportunities, the people I had met. But after a while, doing the same thing felt like ground hog day.... and after a while I was like is this it? I wasn't growing as a content creator to be honest. Even though I diversified my niche, even though I started YouTube. Blogging had boomed, and as a result the raw feeling if creating for creators sake was lost. Most of us (including myself at times) were more focused on numbers, or content that we knew would get views. 

Now I'm no Debbie Downer. I know how business works and I know you got to change things up to be the best. I'm a marketer (in my day job) so I am so aware of how blogging is a strong word of mouth marketing tool. But I just think most bloggers we're taking it too seriously. It got to the point where I'd be hanging out with some of my blogger friends and all we'd talk about is blogging. I was tired of it, and realised I was in a blogger bubble. At the age of 26, and as a woman who always had other hobbies/activities outside of blogging, this no longer fed my soul. So I took the longest break (3 months), I've ever done and lived my life.

I got busy.

I think I've mentioned my age a few times. The reason I did this, was to highlight the priorities my life has now versus  when I started blogging, I was a 20 year old Uni student, with a lot of time on my hands. To now , a 26 year old with 3 jobs. I have a freelance social and Content start up (FBL Bloggers), Monday-Friday I head up social media and digital content for a global travel tech company. Plus this site is a job. Between that and having a super active social life. LWIG was something to put on the back burner whilst I lived life and focused on the important changes in my life. 

I wanted to more than a blogger.

Jess the blogger has been my identity for 6 years. But I'm more than that. I'm a person, I'm a daughter, a sister, your best friend and I have other interests. Which shocked people, weirdly. I love dance and music. But I'll always be a creative in some way.

So what now?

Obviously, I couldn't bring myself to quit. But I brought myself to take a break, and focus on life.
I did not feel guilty, and I couldn't be bothered to think about blogging metrics. The main reason, I didn't quit is because I remembered why I started my blog. My blog saved me, in a number of ways; it was the catalyst which allowed me to be where I am now in my career. It also helped me be more open with my feelings, my interests and helped develop who I am today.

You see, my blog is no longer a place where I post my favourite outfits. It's a place where I express the essence of who I am. It's been my diary for the last 6 years.. and I'd like to have a look back on how I've developed to the person I am today. So how can I truly quit that?

Of course there will be a day, when I  take a bow. But I hope this blog could be an archive of a young Jess, that I can share. All I can promise is to be me, I can't promise to post on the regs like I used to. But I can promise that when I do post... It'll be interesting and of quality.  It'll be the real me and I hope that is why you all visit here, right?

Anyway? Have you quit blogging or thinking about it?



Monday, 13 March 2017


First of all hey! During my hiatus of blogging, I got treated to a fabulous series of treatments​ from the team at HC Medspa in Mill Hill North London. The clinic is an award winning, with locations in London and Hertfordshire.

After making the tough decision to pick some treatments I went for the :

Spa brow, which is exclusive to the clinic. This includes first prepping the eyebrows with a bit towel infused with oil. Then using thread to pluck the eyebrows to get a defined and clean shape. Finally, ending up with a facial to site soothe my face.

I followed up with lvl lashes. Which was basically like perming of my lashes. I'd usually been used to lash  extensions, but this treatment which lasts 6-8 weeks, was a more natural solution. To be honest, I preferred it to lash extensions as the eyelash growing out period was so awful. I'm happy to say that my eyelashes are still lifted and I haven't had to wear mascara for a few weeks.

Finally, my nails were slayed using gel nail polish. Silver and midnight blue were the colours I went for and they lasted a good two weeks and I got many compliments.

I'd like to say thank you to the team at HC Medspa! For being super nice and patient with me.

Have you ever been pampered like this?

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