Wednesday, 21 June 2017

BEAUTY | THE WELLINGTON CLINIC THE BEST DENTAL CLINIC IN LONDON

I think I have been obsessed with teeth, for as long as I can remember. At the age of 10, I would always whiten my teeth with whitening strips, floss and have those pearly whites sparkle. However, my sweet tooth addiction, meant that I have about 4/5 fillings between the ages of 17-22. 

It has always been difficult for me, to find a great dental practice in London, that would really teach me about my teeth, and give me amazing quality of care. But that all changed, when I got invited to The Wellington Dental Clinic in Chelsea, for a free dental examination and hygiene treatment (ultrasonic scale and polish). If you follow me on Snapchat, you would've seen my review live, if you don't or missed it, this will be in a vlog.. very soon.

BEST DENTAL CLINIC IN LONDON

My visit to the clinc happened in two stages. First, I was greeted by the friendly staff and my dentist and dental hygienist. I had a quick consultation with what the review would include, then onto the X-rays to really see how well I'd treated my teeth. They were ok, but needed some TLC. Next, was the check up and clean and my teeth were cleaned so well! The experience was made so much better as I watched Luke Cage on Netflix. On my first visit, I had molds created on my teeth for my whitening guards shown above. I was given a pack of whitening gel for 2 weeks to use to make my  teeth extra bright! 

All in all, my experience was lovely and I want to say a massive thank you to the team at Wellington Dental Clinic. 

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Sunday, 21 May 2017

LIFESTYLE | ACCEPTING MY ANXIETY

So after much speculation from my family and going to the doctors and getting a confirmation. I've been told that I have anxiety, and if I'm really honest with you, I'm embarrassed to have it.

In no way am I bashing other people with it, But I just want to communicate my feelings around it. I've always been a strong person, I'm from a family of fighters. I'm African, Ghanaian to be exact. If something knocks us down, we dust ourselves off and deal with it head on. We don't dwell, we don't worry, we're the back bone for people. We are not the type of people that need to be saved we do the saving.

Accepting anxiety
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I can't be the back bone for others if inside, I constantly feel like I'm crumbling.  Sometimes, I feel like I'm going to explode with so many emotions, that it's hard for me to articulate what I am feeling. I've always found it difficult to express when I'm feeling vulnerable, I cannot speak up until it gets too much. As a result, there are a multitude of things which have led to this point, where I'm anxious all the time.  Inside, I feel I'm suffering, tight chest, worrying thoughts about who I am, what people perceive me to be. That I'm not good enough. That'll never be successful in anything professionally and personally. It's a toxic cycle. I have to push myself to not think of these negative thoughts, and it's so tiring, my God.

That's why I always have quotes on my Instagram, as a reminder of how I'm feeling and to be strong. Luckily, I have very supportive family and friends, who love me. It's just I don't trust myself or I am afraid to feel weak to them, by expressing who I am. Being seen as "weak" and not the "I have my shit together Jess".

I haven't always been like this. If you know me, you'll know I'm a confident person with my shit together. I think as people, we have so many layers and partly that is true. I have a great poker face and on the surface you'd never know how I was feeling.
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But as I wrote in my previous post, I've been in need of a break, which I actively do to make my mind and soul breathe and take head of my life. This anxiety, I have, will not always be here. But it is a big indication, that something needs to change in my life. There are several things, I am now confident to say, have broken me down... And I was to scared to say it. Which is why, I personally asked my doctor to refer me to a counselor rather than medication. As I wanted to understand why I'm feeling this and make positive choices, to rectify my life to make me, well me again. I don't feel like Jess, I feel like Jess on autopilot..just going with the flow.

Anxiety itself is tricky to understand. But I found this nifty diagram on Pinterest to explain how I feel. Boy was it helpful.If you're feeling down, please talk to someone. Someone you trust and don't be embarrassed.. I know I am at the moment. Only because of the perception I have of myself. However, what I've realised, now by writing this post is that it's something a lot of people go through. Alot.. and my older sister said something quite insightful..this world is so stressful, I am surprised a lot of other people don't have anxiety.


Phew..so glad that's off my chest!

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Monday, 1 May 2017

LIFESTYLE| IT'S OK TO TAKE A BREAK FEATURING SUNGLASSES SHOP


“Every person needs to take one day away.  A day in which one consciously separates the past from the future.  Jobs, family, employers, and friends can exist one day without any one of us, and if our egos permit us to confess, they could exist eternally in our absence.  Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for.  Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us.”




I learnt a valuable lesson last year, and that was that it is ok to take a break. You may be thinking really, ain't that pretty standard? Yeah maybe? But do you ever feel like you have to keep going? Or have a massive sense of FOMO (fear of missing out) if you stop doing everything. Like what would your purpose be?

I was never the one to not do anything.. to just sit still. I had to do anything I could to feel fulfilled. At school, I did after school activities, had a job when I was 18. Started a blog, had a placement, went to dance classes, was into more activities at Uni. I'm a go getter and I have no doubt these qualities, will take me to where I will go. However, my desire to push and be the best. kinda took its toll and I became incredibly tired this year. I was crying a lot, and just felt like I was going through the motions. What I realised that what I thought I wanted, maybe wasn't what I wanted... so in order to find myself I decided to do something I hadn't done a take a break, because I couldn't think.



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You see, the idea of being busy is no longer appealing. If you know me well enough you'll know that busy is strongly associated with who Jess is now. I also keep busy as a coping mechanism. I've gone through a lot of changes in the last few years, more so last year and this year. I don't know if I can categorise them as good or bad..It's just different and to be honest I don't think I'm adjusting to the more life changing situations in my life. I don't want to be weak or seem like I can't cope, so I switch off... And refocus on other things.

Mum always said I had a unique way of dealing with things, and I am the expert of emotionally removing myself from sensitive situations, and analysing them with facts and rationalising them. I'm sensible Jess. But sensible Jess needs to feel. I'm afraid of my feelings at times, as I feel everything. I wear my heart on my sleeve. And that's ok.

Soon being busy = Jess has a purpose. A lot of people are surprised when I told them what I do. Monday to Friday, I head up social media and digital content for a Global travel tech company. Then in between that, I freelance for FBL Bloggers & this blog, whilst maintaining a very healthy social life. It's long fam. For a while, this worked, and I was fuelled by admiration. But the admiration no longer fuelled me and I just crashed. I remember a particular moment this happened a few months ago, where I just shut myself off and did nothing. It was the best thing I ever did.

I never had a holiday in 2016, I was a robot. I had become a machine who silenced their deepest desires and fears, due to being scared of realising what was wrong. Now I'm ready and I don't want to be a robot anymore. I want to feel, I want to be me. Which is why I was happily quite on the place, that was my sanctuary for years, My websites! My IG was lit, because I just focused on being me and not this super amazing superwoman, who was on 100. I am learning to take care of me. Learning to slow down, albeit difficult!  I  am allowing myself to feel and adjust to the changes in my life.



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You see, whatever you do, you have a purpose. You wouldn't be on this Earth if you didn't have a part to play in this bit wild universe. I am learning to stop searching for who I am, to force this purpose and go with the flow. Take a break and breathe if you need to, because you matter. You know? Have you needed to take a break recently?

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Thursday, 13 April 2017

WHY I ALMOST QUIT BLOGGING

I never thought I'd be back to writing my blog. Honestly, after 6 years of Look What I Got! The idea of blogging or content creating was so uninteresting. I had touched on this a couple of times​ through blog posts, and I really did try to change things up, and take a break. But the more my life seemed to change, the more my blog, which had been such an integral part of my life, reduced significantly. So why did I almost stop blogging?

WHY I ALMOST QUIT BLOGGING


I was bored.


First and foremost, it bored me. I was grateful for the event invites, the exclusive opportunities, the people I had met. But after a while, doing the same thing felt like ground hog day.... and after a while I was like is this it? I wasn't growing as a content creator to be honest. Even though I diversified my niche, even though I started YouTube. Blogging had boomed, and as a result the raw feeling if creating for creators sake was lost. Most of us (including myself at times) were more focused on numbers, or content that we knew would get views. 

Now I'm no Debbie Downer. I know how business works and I know you got to change things up to be the best. I'm a marketer (in my day job) so I am so aware of how blogging is a strong word of mouth marketing tool. But I just think most bloggers we're taking it too seriously. It got to the point where I'd be hanging out with some of my blogger friends and all we'd talk about is blogging. I was tired of it, and realised I was in a blogger bubble. At the age of 26, and as a woman who always had other hobbies/activities outside of blogging, this no longer fed my soul. So I took the longest break (3 months), I've ever done and lived my life.

I got busy.

I think I've mentioned my age a few times. The reason I did this, was to highlight the priorities my life has now versus  when I started blogging, I was a 20 year old Uni student, with a lot of time on my hands. To now , a 26 year old with 3 jobs. I have a freelance social and Content start up (FBL Bloggers), Monday-Friday I head up social media and digital content for a global travel tech company. Plus this site is a job. Between that and having a super active social life. LWIG was something to put on the back burner whilst I lived life and focused on the important changes in my life. 



I wanted to more than a blogger.

Jess the blogger has been my identity for 6 years. But I'm more than that. I'm a person, I'm a daughter, a sister, your best friend and I have other interests. Which shocked people, weirdly. I love dance and music. But I'll always be a creative in some way.

So what now?


Obviously, I couldn't bring myself to quit. But I brought myself to take a break, and focus on life.
I did not feel guilty, and I couldn't be bothered to think about blogging metrics. The main reason, I didn't quit is because I remembered why I started my blog. My blog saved me, in a number of ways; it was the catalyst which allowed me to be where I am now in my career. It also helped me be more open with my feelings, my interests and helped develop who I am today.

You see, my blog is no longer a place where I post my favourite outfits. It's a place where I express the essence of who I am. It's been my diary for the last 6 years.. and I'd like to have a look back on how I've developed to the person I am today. So how can I truly quit that?

Of course there will be a day, when I  take a bow. But I hope this blog could be an archive of a young Jess, that I can share. All I can promise is to be me, I can't promise to post on the regs like I used to. But I can promise that when I do post... It'll be interesting and of quality.  It'll be the real me and I hope that is why you all visit here, right?

Anyway? Have you quit blogging or thinking about it?




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Monday, 13 March 2017

BEAUTY | PAMPERING AT HC MEDSPA

First of all hey! During my hiatus of blogging, I got treated to a fabulous series of treatments​ from the team at HC Medspa in Mill Hill North London. The clinic is an award winning, with locations in London and Hertfordshire.



After making the tough decision to pick some treatments I went for the :

Spa brow, which is exclusive to the clinic. This includes first prepping the eyebrows with a bit towel infused with oil. Then using thread to pluck the eyebrows to get a defined and clean shape. Finally, ending up with a facial to site soothe my face.

I followed up with lvl lashes. Which was basically like perming of my lashes. I'd usually been used to lash  extensions, but this treatment which lasts 6-8 weeks, was a more natural solution. To be honest, I preferred it to lash extensions as the eyelash growing out period was so awful. I'm happy to say that my eyelashes are still lifted and I haven't had to wear mascara for a few weeks.




Finally, my nails were slayed using gel nail polish. Silver and midnight blue were the colours I went for and they lasted a good two weeks and I got many compliments.



I'd like to say thank you to the team at HC Medspa! For being super nice and patient with me.

Have you ever been pampered like this?


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Sunday, 8 January 2017

LIFESTYLE|IT'S OK TO OPEN UP


You know, I'd like to think that most of our problems wouldn't be problems anymore if we just opened up a bit and spoke about our worries and frustrations.

I'm not pointing the finger at anyone, and I'm definitely in the club of, I don't really open up. I have always been that way, and it has been a struggle to open up, even when I feel vulnerable. Because I don't want to seem weak, useless, or a burden on people who have much more going on than myself. Now with that mentality, I often started to hurt myself emotionally. To the point, that at times I'd nearly breakdown and my family and friends would often say, now why didn't you just come to us?


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Why didn't I? Cause it was and still is hard to speak my truth at times. To be exposed and let people know that I am not ok, and I am struggling with aspects of my life. I'd feel small, defeated in a way to let anyone see the unguarded me. But do you know what I'd feel after? A relief! It was like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders and I was elated as I no longer had to deal with problems on my own.

Over the last year and a half, I'd been dealing with new changes with my life, which I'd thought I'd had a handle on. New jobs, new people, new opportunities. Buttttttt..in all honesty I'd been struggling alot to adjust to change. Especially, where I'd just started a really awesome job at an awesome company. It is still in my same field but a different industry that I'm used to and I'll tell you that it was kind of overwhelming at first, as it was a contrast to what I was used to.


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I felt like a loser as this had never been me.. feeling overwhelmed. I'm the strong one. I think part of it was the pressure I'd put on myself, and partly because I didn't know what was expected of me. So I spoke to my family, friends and bosses and it made me feel better.

Although, it is overwhelming! Everything new is and needs time. You see with opening up with my fears, I didn't feel alone anymore. I don't think anyone should fear speaking up. Make sure your happy, because you matter.

Talk to people.. and if you don't have a network. Go on forums (Quora), apps (7 cups of tea), social media etc. Whatever you do, don't keep it in. No one is perfect.

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Tuesday, 3 January 2017

FASHION| GLASSES DIRECT REVIEW

Since I was the tender age of 12, I've worn glasses. I remember when I realised that my eyes were changing in Year 7 French class, where I dreaded when my teacher used the orange marker on the white board, instead of the black one. I didn't want to move from the back with my friends so I squinted as I struggled in class.

Glasses Direct
Glasses Direct



Fast forward 14 years, and I am still rocking a pair of specs! My eyes have gotten worse, but I've just learnt to roll with it. It's so much part of my life to go and pick out a pair of glasses, and  that the process can be almost painful! However, I had a relaxing experience this time when I was contacted by the guys over at Glasses Direct. I wanted a stress free time, as I'm so busy.

Let me tell you the process was easy as pie, honestly and truly.

First of  all,  I picked my four options from the site, popped my details down and it was there within a week. Next, I got to try the four options and mark down the pair I wanted. Mind you, the lenses that I got had no power and were simply sent to give me a better idea of the frames that would suit me. Kind of like what you'd do in a opticians but in the comfort of your own home. 

Glasses Direct


Finally, I sent back the glasses, with my preference ticked off on the sheet I had.I then entered my prescription, and within a week, my glasses had come to me.

I am in love with my new specs and get so, many compliments about them. Overall, the process was pretty simple, just make sure that you send the trial specs back within a week. With glasses being so overpriced these days, using Glasses Direct was a simplier and cheaper option for me, and I'd highly recommend everyone to try them out, especially if you are like me and just don't have the time to go into a traditional store. So how do I look? 
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Sunday, 1 January 2017

CHAPTER 1 OF 365....2017 I AM READY BABE!

So here we are the 1st of January 2017, we have completed another year and what did I learn? Well in the words of Ms Kylie Jenner, 2016 was honestly and truly, the year of realising things. Stupid when you first hear it, but it was.

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2017


In a nutshell:

January- September 2016
  • I started the year in a new social media job, in a massive company with a great team.
  • Went to the Britain's Next Top Model launch event.
  •  I was also working on my side hustle FBL Bloggers, and nearing the end of my mentoring course to give me the skills to make it into a fully fledged business.  I completed said course and I am on my way baby! With the help I had got a few more opportunities and clients for the brand. Such as a watch range, editors and an office space.
  • My blog took a bit of a back seat, as I decided to focus on myself and life. But, I was on London Live TV for Westfield, appeared in two magazines (Black Hair Magazine and Blogosphere Magazine)
  • I made new friends, connected with old friends, and had a stronger bond with family.
  • I went to a film premier for the Neon Demon.
  • Modelled for Kurt Geiger and I appeared on their website.
  • Was invited by Sunglass Hut, the official sponsor of London Fashion Week and kinda frow-ed in September. Not to mention the London Fashion week lounges!
  • Went to Notting Hill again, had an amazing August bank holiday, parties galore!
HAPPY NEW YEAR 2017


September- December 2016

  • Shot for Shopstyle with Kyle Galvin at the Shopstyle event
  • Launched the FBL Bloggers watch range.
  • Got another campaign for FBL Bloggers with Book Your Lifestyle
  • Worked with Boohoo again and did the Party season campaign.
  • I turned 26, and had a lit birthday with my friends.. and met Tim Westwood, who gave me a shout out on my birthday.
  • Had a goood time and quit my job and got a better role as a Social Media manager for a Travel Company.
  • Spent Christmas with the fam and my nephews.




So what did I learn? I learnt to be open.. and I learnt to put myself out there and fight for whatever I want and it will pay off..but I must be patient. I hope to use these learning and use them to strengthen me to be the person I want to be, and who I know I can be! The sky is the limit and I want all of it..and I will get it. Buttttt I need to relax and have fun too. I am young init!  Anyway how was 2016 for you? What did you learn?
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