Tuesday, 28 June 2016


Ask yourself this, when was the last time you really let yourself go? You finally were tired of being scared of disappointment and decided to say fuck it, let me take a leap of faith. No matter what the outcome, I won't have regrets. I will be free! Free of uncertainty, free of failure and finally free to be myself despite what people think.

This happened to me last week. Well since last year, I had been taking steps to be truly fearless by taking risks in my professional life. So I could feel more fulfilled professionally. However, was that really enough? No not really. The risks I took last year were the spark the set fire to my internal journey to being more open with my feelings.
Now if you know me, you'd probably describe me as a bubbly and ambitious girl, with a lovely heart. Always there to make other people happy and help guide the people I care about to their full potential. However, one of my biggest fears is being vulnerable and exposing my feelings. I don't always express my deepest feelings...I hate feeling emotionally naked. I can't really pinpoint why? Maybe because I don't want to bother people with my problems. I mean there are other people who have greater shit going on. Why should people worry about me? I felt sharing my insecurities was a weak trait.

See this was the problem. .I thought sharing my deepest feelings made me seem weak. As a result, of this I was hurting myself and I was truly tired. I wanted to change this and I have been doing this. But there was one situation last week, that truly made me fearless and it has changed me for the better.
So without eluding to this situation any further, I'll give you the summary of what happened. So recently, I had become really good friends with this guy. He is truly an a good  person and we hit it off quite quickly. This dude is hilarious and weirdly enough ..I could talk to him about anything. It's rare that you find cool people like this and to me,the friendship was just natural. It was like we'd known each other for years. The longer we chatted, about real talk..the more I started to develop feelings. Messages started to get cryptic between both of us and  I started seeing him as more as a friend and wandered if he was thinking the same? I was so damn confused and  afraid to ruin the friendship.


I mean you hear stories of people getting with their friends and breaking up, and never repairing that friendship and this was just a friendship I didn't want to ruin. So I kept it to myself for 2 weeks, talking to my mate as normal. But inside , I  was stressed and I realised I was returning back to my old habits of hurting myself. I needed to let him know, despite not feeling 100% ready.
So one morning, I made a decision. I woke up fearless, decided to take  a leap of faith and tell this guy how I felt and ask him how he felt. I knew this could go so bad, and that is what scared me. The loss of friendship. However, I had to tell him. So with the power of whatsapp, I asked him, in a bumbling way and watched with anticipation as the two blue ticks lit up. Let me tell you, I am  a confident gyal,  but this was a scary situation.
To my surprise it didn't turn out bad. Without going into the  details, it became a situation where there was attraction there,but it wasn't the right time for both of us. We wanted to remain friends,
which I am ok about.
I always believe that people come into your life for a reason. Maybe he's there to make me more open and maybe I'm there to help him realise his potential. I don't know!
What I do know, is that this conversation ignited something in me. It made me less afraid and truly happy to be vulnerable at times. It started to get me thinking of other aspects of my life and made me realise that I truly deserve more, in every aspect of my life. Which I am putting plans in motion for.
By taking this leap of faith, I am less afraid of expressing my feelings. It is still a process let me tell you! However, I survived and guess what? Me and the dude are still friends and talk regularly. So please, don't let fear dictate your choices. Fear is crippling,  don't live a life of regrets. You may miss your chance at something great.
I'll stop being wet now! But I want to know when was the last time you took a leap of faith?
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Thanks to the guys over at JD Williams for supplying the boots. I loved styling them up!


Friday, 10 June 2016


If you've followed me for a while, you know I run a blogger network called FBL Bloggers,  home to the bloggers favourite chat the #fblchat. Where we discuss key topics in blogging every Tuesday (8-9 PM GMT) and Saturday (3-4 PM GMT).
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Now, I told you that for 2 reasons:
1) For a shameless plug, seriously join its amazing.
2) I missed you all. I missed who I was as a blogger, a creator and a friend to the community. So I took a much needed appearance to host.
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I decided to host a topic on losing your blogger mojo, a few weeks ago,  a topic dear to my heart as I've experienced it many times,  over my 5 years as a blogger. You know what I mean? The idea of blogging is so un-appealing that you'd rather do something else. My something else, has been catching up with Game of Thrones and spending time in the real world away from social media and it has been wonderful.

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From the chat, it was good to see many bloggers who felt the same and to understand why they felt this way. Many said life got in the way,  others were uninspired and needed to shake things up. Or some had just felt that their life as a blogger had ended. You know what? That's ok! Nothing in life is going to be rosy and fun all the time, and that goes with blogging too. I can say as much as I love blogging and FBL Bloggers, it isn't my whole life. I have other important life things that interest me, like my family and friends as well as other hobbies such as dancing, music, photography and art.
So if you still want to continue in the weird and wonderful world of blogging then ask yourself these questions:
1) Why have you lost your  blogging mojo?
2) Why did you start blogging in the first place?
3) What can you do to shake things up and make it interesting again?
4)* If you feel that you are done being a blogger, ask yourself what skills and lessons you have learnt and how you can apply it to your professional and personal life. Can you take those photography skills and become a photographer or content editor, maybe you just want to focus on photography as a hobby. Or can you use those social media and SEO skills, to go into digital marketing. Maybe being on Youtube has sparked your interest in a media career? Or maybe it has just helped you become more confident in general? 
If you want to get your mojo back this is what you can do:
  • Take a break- No point forcing yourself to write, just because you want to be relevant. Forced content is always so obvious and it is always so painful to write. So do yourself a favour and relax fam. Your followers will always be there.
  • Engage with your followers outside of your blog - Whether Instagram, Youtube, Twitter, Snapchat or Periscope is your favourite social media channel, focus on those channels and create content on them. It may not be blogging in the same sense, but mandem, it is a way to stay current and create alternative content. Take me for example, I love instagram and photography, so I have focused on increasing my following and developing a content strategy on insta and I have hit over 2k, increasing by 1K followers. I also go to events when I want to be connected with the community. I still feel in the loop, but I just don't blog per se.
  • Shake things up-Tired of blogging, start a Youtube channel?  Maybe your blog needs a makeover?

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Like I always like to say..I'm no expert. Butttt, I've been a blogger for a while now (5 years ) and I think my little nugget of advice can help...hopefully.
So how will I get my mojo back?  Your girl is going on YouTube again. I just need to edit my videos.
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