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Monday, 18 July 2016

LIFESTYLE| IT'S OK TO DESERVE MORE

A few months back, I talked about knowing your worth. In this post, I wanted to take it a step further and talk about deserving more. Now, you may be thinking, why I would need to talk about this in depth? Well, certain aspects of my life  have made me feel that I deserve more. Now, I am not claiming to be the Queen of Sheba or anything, but as a person who is big on self-development, I have been feeling like I am in limbo. So I ask you, do you ever sit there and feel like you're in a rut? Feel like you can do more and /or deserve more, than what you are doing right now?

You feel bored of everything and everyone.You are tired of feeling mistreated and taken for granted in all aspects of your life,  and you conclude that something has to change.

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Lean a little bit closer, because I got something you need to understand.  YOU DESERVE MORE BECAUSE YOU ARE WORTHY! You feel me? Sometimes I feel guilty for wanting more, do you? Is it wrong to want to be treated right by your friends/ partner if you think they don't value you? Is it wrong to look  elsewhere for a job because you've outgrown the company and want to develop somewhere else? Well, the simple answer is no. In this life, you got to be ruthless with what you want.

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So how do you get what you deserve? Well as the helpful gyal that I am, I have detailed a few ways you can do this:

Take some me time:


I find that taking some time away from everything, lets you reevaluate what is important. Honestly, be selfish.  Do things that you never get time to do. Maybe book a holiday?  Turn off all social media and watch crappy tv and order a takeaway. Whatever you do, just make sure you have time to ease your mind. The purpose of me time is to evaluate your life at the moment, and the steps you need to take to make a change to feeling more fulfilled.


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Close the chapter on bad relationships:

Now I am talking about platonic as well as romantic relationships. Both similar and different in many ways. If you feel that your friends don't put as much work into your friendship, like constantly cancelling on you, only call you when they have an issue, and generally not there in your time of need, then  I first suggest talking to your friends. If the behaviour persists, then you need  to end that friendship. Now, this is hard! I know. You've built up history with this person/people and making the hard decision to end it is daunting. Depending on what type of person you are, I always believe in distancing yourself slowly and focusing on you and putting your energy with people who value you. Friendship works both ways, and if they aren't there for you in your time of need; they were never really your friend in the first place, in it?

Now let's talk about romantic relationships. Similarly to friendships, they work both ways. If you feel that you are carrying someone in that relationship, feel that you are together only for convenience, then it's time to let them go. Don't stay in a dying relationship out of comfort. Not only will you be unhappy, you'll waste time. I like to see relationships as a puzzle. There are millions of pieces that have the potential to fit (these are known as potential partners).  If you are trying so hard to force that puzzle piece in order to solve a puzzle (a relationship)  and it just doesn't fit, then it isn't worth the aggro. Trust that among all the wrong pieces, you'll  find that perfect piece and everything will fit and make sense. Now some people solve the puzzle easily, and others need more time to rummage in the box a little bit. In the end, we all find the right one, so  trust in that. Take your time, have fun learning on the way, you deserve the best.

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Take a new direction:

Sometimes taking a new direction helps us realise that we deserve better. Speaking to a lot of my friends, they've gone travelling in order to find themselves. Then coming home and embarking on their new quest to self-fulfilment on home soil. Some choose to relocate entirely, in a quest for a fresh start. Or simply you may realise a change in career or company is a way you'll feel more fulfilled.


I just want to end this  and let you know that if you are feeling this way, it gets better. If it helps everyone will feel this in their life at some point. The feeling of deserving more will occur throughout your lifetime. This is a good thing, as we  always need to be developing and doing better. You never have to be perfect, but you must always want to do better, feel better and deserve more than what you want.


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Tuesday, 28 June 2016

LIFESTYLE| IT'S OK TO TAKE A LEAP OF FAITH

Ask yourself this, when was the last time you really let yourself go? You finally were tired of being scared of disappointment and decided to say fuck it, let me take a leap of faith. No matter what the outcome, I won't have regrets. I will be free! Free of uncertainty, free of failure and finally free to be myself despite what people think.
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This happened to me last week. Well since last year, I had been taking steps to be truly fearless by taking risks in my professional life. So I could feel more fulfilled professionally. However, was that really enough? No not really. The risks I took last year were the spark the set fire to my internal journey to being more open with my feelings.
Now if you know me, you'd probably describe me as a bubbly and ambitious girl, with a lovely heart. Always there to make other people happy and help guide the people I care about to their full potential. However, one of my biggest fears is being vulnerable and exposing my feelings. I don't always express my deepest feelings...I hate feeling emotionally naked. I can't really pinpoint why? Maybe because I don't want to bother people with my problems. I mean there are other people who have greater shit going on. Why should people worry about me? I felt sharing my insecurities was a weak trait.
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See this was the problem. .I thought sharing my deepest feelings made me seem weak. As a result, of this I was hurting myself and I was truly tired. I wanted to change this and I have been doing this. But there was one situation last week, that truly made me fearless and it has changed me for the better.
So without eluding to this situation any further, I'll give you the summary of what happened. So recently, I had become really good friends with this guy. He is truly an a good  person and we hit it off quite quickly. This dude is hilarious and weirdly enough ..I could talk to him about anything. It's rare that you find cool people like this and to me,the friendship was just natural. It was like we'd known each other for years. The longer we chatted, about real talk..the more I started to develop feelings. Messages started to get cryptic between both of us and  I started seeing him as more as a friend and wandered if he was thinking the same? I was so damn confused and  afraid to ruin the friendship.

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I mean you hear stories of people getting with their friends and breaking up, and never repairing that friendship and this was just a friendship I didn't want to ruin. So I kept it to myself for 2 weeks, talking to my mate as normal. But inside , I  was stressed and I realised I was returning back to my old habits of hurting myself. I needed to let him know, despite not feeling 100% ready.
So one morning, I made a decision. I woke up fearless, decided to take  a leap of faith and tell this guy how I felt and ask him how he felt. I knew this could go so bad, and that is what scared me. The loss of friendship. However, I had to tell him. So with the power of whatsapp, I asked him, in a bumbling way and watched with anticipation as the two blue ticks lit up. Let me tell you, I am  a confident gyal,  but this was a scary situation.
To my surprise it didn't turn out bad. Without going into the  details, it became a situation where there was attraction there,but it wasn't the right time for both of us. We wanted to remain friends,
which I am ok about.
I always believe that people come into your life for a reason. Maybe he's there to make me more open and maybe I'm there to help him realise his potential. I don't know!
What I do know, is that this conversation ignited something in me. It made me less afraid and truly happy to be vulnerable at times. It started to get me thinking of other aspects of my life and made me realise that I truly deserve more, in every aspect of my life. Which I am putting plans in motion for.
By taking this leap of faith, I am less afraid of expressing my feelings. It is still a process let me tell you! However, I survived and guess what? Me and the dude are still friends and talk regularly. So please, don't let fear dictate your choices. Fear is crippling,  don't live a life of regrets. You may miss your chance at something great.
I'll stop being wet now! But I want to know when was the last time you took a leap of faith?
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Thanks to the guys over at JD Williams for supplying the boots. I loved styling them up!




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Friday, 10 June 2016

LIFESTYLE| IT'S OK TO LOSE YOUR BLOGGER MOJO

If you've followed me for a while, you know I run a blogger network called FBL Bloggers,  home to the bloggers favourite chat the #fblchat. Where we discuss key topics in blogging every Tuesday (8-9 PM GMT) and Saturday (3-4 PM GMT).
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Now, I told you that for 2 reasons:
1) For a shameless plug, seriously join its amazing.
2) I missed you all. I missed who I was as a blogger, a creator and a friend to the community. So I took a much needed appearance to host.
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I decided to host a topic on losing your blogger mojo, a few weeks ago,  a topic dear to my heart as I've experienced it many times,  over my 5 years as a blogger. You know what I mean? The idea of blogging is so un-appealing that you'd rather do something else. My something else, has been catching up with Game of Thrones and spending time in the real world away from social media and it has been wonderful.

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From the chat, it was good to see many bloggers who felt the same and to understand why they felt this way. Many said life got in the way,  others were uninspired and needed to shake things up. Or some had just felt that their life as a blogger had ended. You know what? That's ok! Nothing in life is going to be rosy and fun all the time, and that goes with blogging too. I can say as much as I love blogging and FBL Bloggers, it isn't my whole life. I have other important life things that interest me, like my family and friends as well as other hobbies such as dancing, music, photography and art.
So if you still want to continue in the weird and wonderful world of blogging then ask yourself these questions:
1) Why have you lost your  blogging mojo?
2) Why did you start blogging in the first place?
3) What can you do to shake things up and make it interesting again?
4)* If you feel that you are done being a blogger, ask yourself what skills and lessons you have learnt and how you can apply it to your professional and personal life. Can you take those photography skills and become a photographer or content editor, maybe you just want to focus on photography as a hobby. Or can you use those social media and SEO skills, to go into digital marketing. Maybe being on Youtube has sparked your interest in a media career? Or maybe it has just helped you become more confident in general? 
If you want to get your mojo back this is what you can do:
  • Take a break- No point forcing yourself to write, just because you want to be relevant. Forced content is always so obvious and it is always so painful to write. So do yourself a favour and relax fam. Your followers will always be there.
  • Engage with your followers outside of your blog - Whether Instagram, Youtube, Twitter, Snapchat or Periscope is your favourite social media channel, focus on those channels and create content on them. It may not be blogging in the same sense, but mandem, it is a way to stay current and create alternative content. Take me for example, I love instagram and photography, so I have focused on increasing my following and developing a content strategy on insta and I have hit over 2k, increasing by 1K followers. I also go to events when I want to be connected with the community. I still feel in the loop, but I just don't blog per se.
  • Shake things up-Tired of blogging, start a Youtube channel?  Maybe your blog needs a makeover?

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Like I always like to say..I'm no expert. Butttt, I've been a blogger for a while now (5 years ) and I think my little nugget of advice can help...hopefully.
So how will I get my mojo back?  Your girl is going on YouTube again. I just need to edit my videos.
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Tuesday, 17 May 2016

FASHION| VIVIENNE WESTWOOD ORB II WATCH

Often, details are overlooked. The small features, the ingredients to life, that extra component that makes something insignificant, significant can be disregarded due to its inability to be boisterous. However, sometimes those small, intricate details are the ones that make things shine, make things interesting. This is definitely what the Vivienne Westwood Orb II watch does! With its pink strap design and iconic orb design in the face of the watch, this wrist piece has added a touch of elegance to my outfits.


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From afar, the straps seem simple but if you look closely the boast a simple star/diamond embossed detail to add interest to the piece. Now pink isn't every girls colour, I get that. For me, I see myself as an edgy girl with a splash of elegance, so you would think pink wouldn't be my thing. However, the colour, the orb pendant which delicately hangs on the face of the watch does nothing to remove the edge from me. What it does is go against the status quo of a typical ladies watch, which is what I love about it. Looking at it, it is definitely what you expect from a Vivienne Westwood  piece.

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My personal style has simplified over the last 2 years. Moving away from statement pieces through out my outfit, I champion one piece and a few simple gold midi rings. I am happy to say that this has been my staple piece, which I have paired with simple skinnies, crop tops and my new love the velvet choker. Literally this watch is so versatile, that I have found that it goes with every outfit and doesn’t look out of place!

I’ll definitely do outfit photos of this watch, so you can  see how I style it. But for now, I wanted to bring focus to this piece and also say a massive thanks to the guys over at Tessuti for gifting this watch to me. If you want to purchase this watch or any watch then head over here
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