Sunday, 1 November 2015

LIFESTYLE | IT'S OK TO FEEL LOST, THE QUARTER LIFE CRISIS

I am not sure what the point of this post is, honestly. At the time you are reading this post, it will be Sunday afternoon. All thanks to my uber amazing organisation skills, that are proving to be quit useful. But in reality, I am writing this post at 3 am on a Monday, because I can't sleep. Not because I stayed up to stupid o'clock, (well partly), but they overwhelming thoughts, that plagued me back in the early part of the year, are coming swimming back. In a nutshell, I feel lost and my impending 25th birthday is not helping; as quite frankly I thought I should have had my shit together by now.

THE QUARTER LIFE CRISIS


Now I know you maybe thinking, Jess your still young. No-one really knows who they are until their 30s right? Well I know that, logically. However, it is so easy to compare yourself. I have never really been the one to compare myself to others, my mantra has always been "do you boo", which simply translates to you do your thing, and I will do mine. However, the power of social media, and the way I am feeling makes it very easy to compare myself. You see your peers with well planned out jobs, with the devoted boyfriend, starting a family or taking life by the horns and back packing for a year. Everyone seems to know what they are doing, where they are going and I feel like I am in limbo. I am plagued by self doubt with the decisions I have made; all in the quest for happiness. If you are completely confused about the decisions I am talking about, I was basically  unhappy a couple of months ago and decided to take a risk, and quit my job. In order to take my blogger network FBL Bloggers to the next stage. 

THE QUARTER LIFE CRISIS

Now although things have been tough, I am happier. I have been able to have time and reflect and realize what I want, and what I will be willing to fight for. I have learnt in the space of 7 months, that if you really want something you will go out and get it. I mean I am.. but no one ever tells you how long it takes you to get what you want. Frankly, I am a little frustrated. I am usually a laid back, go with the flow kinda girl. But because I have chosen an uncertain path, I don't have the security of saying that. I guess I want things ticked off, I mean everything is just so in the air. I don't know where I am going really, or if things will go my way. I want to be selfish, and I want it all right now. I want my business to hit the ground running, I want the amazing relationship, I want my little black car, I want to feel settled.

However, is it the right time for all of that? I mean if I was supposed to have all of that right now, right here, with the snap of my fingers, would I truly appreciate it?  I think I am looking at me feeling lost as a negative thing, Maybe me feeling lost, is a signal to stop overwhelming myself and take it easy. I have the rest of my life to worry about these things, but I will not always have the time to be young and enjoy my life. I mean there are more troubling things going around the world. I know logically that everything always seems to work out, I just wish I could truly believe it right now.

THE QUARTER LIFE CRISIS
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  1. I loved reading this... Very truthful and honest... You're defo not the only one in this position..Left my job a few months ago to pursue a masters that I've always wanted to do. I've come to realise that it's Faith and Action that can get you past this uncertain point. Faith: you will most definitely get everything you want in the right time. Action: Whenever possible, take that step to achieve your dream. Whether it's uploading a blog post when you don't feel like it or going to that networking event you are too tired to go to. But it will definitely work out hun!! In terms of the comparisons remember that we don't know everyone's 'behind the scenes' .. Keep at it Xxx

    Christine | www.yveschild.com

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  2. You are doing fine (more than fine although I know it doesn't always feel like it) and things will work out brilliantly for you - you work hard and learn from what you do. I don't know if anyone truly ever gets to the stage of getting their sh*t together at any point in their lives. I'm hitting a 'nearly 40 life crisis ' at the moment wondering what had happened to me in the past Decade...yes I know i have 3 wonderful kids but have I lost me somewhere along the way...and yet I feel more at ease with myself than I did in my 20s in many ways. Just take each step at a time and enjoy it along the way. My one bit of biggest advice I would give the younger me is to have worried less about stuff. You are amazing - keep going and don't give up on your dreams xxxx

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  3. Love this! Cause sometimes I feel the same way. One minute I feel like I have it together and the next I don't know where I'm going in life.

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  4. Love this post girl, everyone has that stage, its the consistency and passion that will drive you.

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  5. Love this honest and truthful post. I've really struggled to decide what path I wish to take and find it hard to just let fate take its course. Keep doing what you do and it'll eventually fall into place.

    Xo Lottie
    withlovelottie.uk

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  6. Nice post dear.
    Trust me you are not the only one feeling this way.
    But you know what I realised, each person has a different story.
    If something isn't happening now doesn't mean it will never happen.
    Stay strong and focused to what you are doing!
    Good luck!
    x

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  7. Love this post girl.I loved reading this... Very truthful and honest...

    xxx
    Kristy

    A Fashion Blog for Women
    High Street Fashion Blog

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  8. Such an inspiring post - even in the saddest times it's so important to have some space to reflect. Writing a blog post can be so cathartic too! I hope it helped you as I really enjoyed reading it xx

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  9. Loved this post! We all go through this it's so normal but let me ask you thisomething if you had all these things right now, would you still want more? I think we all feel stuck when we accomplish some things or lost because life isn't going where you want it to go. But it's ok. Focus on the things that make you happy. You have a long life ahead of u and remember no feeling is ever permanent. By the way who doesn't love fbl?? Girl you got it! Xoxo

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  10. Reading this post was like somebody stepped into my mind and literally penned out my exact thoughts, in a poignant and coherent manner. I'm 26 soon to be 27 in a few months and had a small internal meltdown at the start of the year because I didn't have my shit together and am slowly nearing 30. Society does make us feel as though there's some imaginary monthly check list we're supposed to complete, and are pretty much a failure if we dont. But what's strange is how passionately people on the outside of our own heads stay routing for us, knowing we're doing amazing things (at least that's how they perceive it). Yet for whatever reason, we remain overly critical of ourselves. In my recent state of "I'm lost" is the only time in my life i've felt regret over my previous decisions... But the irony is that all my previous decisions led to me quitting my job and starting my Media career (which although its meant hollow pockets at times, is the happiest I've been) so should we really care about the Black shiny car or stable relationship with that foiiiinnneeee specimen we've been flirting on Instagram with for months? I feel the answer is yes, as it gives us something to strive for... But not to the point where it interferes with our sleep. Lol I'm glad I read this post, its put a lot of my own thoughts into perspective. Thank you so much for sharing x

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  11. Reading this post was like somebody stepped into my mind and literally penned out my exact thoughts, in a poignant and coherent manner. I'm 26 soon to be 27 in a few months and had a small internal meltdown at the start of the year because I didn't have my shit together and am slowly nearing 30. Society does make us feel as though there's some imaginary monthly check list we're supposed to complete, and are pretty much a failure if we dont. But what's strange is how passionately people on the outside of our own heads stay routing for us, knowing we're doing amazing things (at least that's how they perceive it). Yet for whatever reason, we remain overly critical of ourselves. In my recent state of "I'm lost" is the only time in my life i've felt regret over my previous decisions... But the irony is that all my previous decisions led to me quitting my job and starting my Media career (which although its meant hollow pockets at times, is the happiest I've been) so should we really care about the Black shiny car or stable relationship with that foiiiinnneeee specimen we've been flirting on Instagram with for months? I feel the answer is yes, as it gives us something to strive for... But not to the point where it interferes with our sleep. Lol I'm glad I read this post, its put a lot of my own thoughts into perspective. Thank you so much for sharing x

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